I miss daddy August 26, 2008
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Ok, you sappy people get some Kleenex for this one..LOL.
People often ask how is it that we can go through all these deployments. I usually have some token answer for them and put my best Military Spouse smile on and give them a peek at my Super Woman costume. I will not lie, it is very difficult to juggle everything and to be both mom and dad. This is not new to us.. We are seasoned pros at this whole deployment thing and each time we experience something new and different.
God has been so faithful and blessed us with phenomenal Christian people who truly take care of us when my husband leaves. I also do not know how those without Christ would be able to survive these multiple deployments. Christ is ONLY way I keep strong!
I can repair things I never wanted to learn how to repair. I can move heavy items as well as professional movers. I can fix a sink and toilet. I can cut the yard, weed eat, and mow. I can wash the car, vacuum it out, take it to the DMV, check all the fluids. I can take care of all things military and all things home. I can take care of all the finances (or lack thereof.LOL) all while still doing my normal “keeper of the home” duties. But my chaos and juggling all come to a screeching halt when one of my children are sitting quietly and then say.. “Mommy, I miss daddy.”
There is no obstacle so great during a deployment than the emotional wounds of our children. Having 2 boys, in my opinion, makes it more difficult. They miss the “male bonding.” I can see it when they are around other men in our lives and they crave that male stuff. I can go over and beyond what I normally do for them but I am still not-daddy. I can throw a ball with them, play soccer and rough house on the living room floor but… I am still not daddy. Aaron, to some degree, understands what John does and why he does it. Logan just knows that daddy is “Gone” as it puts it.
Military wives learn quickly how to fix and repair. We learn how to manage a house as a single mother. We have no other choice.. But I can not fix or repair the heart of my children.
I say all this to say, if you see a military person, they do not want your thanks.. But their children need them. Make sure the kids know how special their Daddy is and how important he is to our country.
Of course everything in our home is a “teachable” moment. I pray that I do an adequate job at being the example of relying on Christ for my strength. I pray that they understand that although their Earthly father my not always be here.. Their heavenly father will never leave or forsake them!
2Grace and peace to you from God our Father and the Lord Jesus Christ.3Praise be to the God and Father of our Lord Jesus Christ, the Father of compassion and the God of all comfort, 4who comforts us in all our troubles, so that we can comfort those in any trouble with the comfort we ourselves have received from God. (2Cor 1:2-4)
A place to share in my journey and my thoughts as I seek to Serve my Savior, Submit to my husband, and Seal the Word of God onto the hearts of my two sons.
Hear, O Israel! The LORD is our God, the LORD is one!
You shall love the LORD your Godwith all your heart and with all your soul and with all your might.
These words, which I am commanding you today, shall be on your heart.
You shall teach them diligently to your sons and shall talk of them when you sit in your house and when you walk by the way and when you lie down and when you rise up.
You shall bind them as a sign on your hand and they shall be as frontals o your forehead.
You shall write them on the doorposts of your house and on your gates.
Deut 6: 4-9
My treasures
Blessed Are the Pure In Heart
Blessed are the pure in heart.
So often we are told
Of saints whose names and daily deeds
Inscribed in books of gold
Are certain to be seeing God
In well-rewarding joy -
But when I see the pure in heart
I see a little boy.
He shins up trees and barks his knees,
Has lizards in a box;
He loves to read of dinosaurs,
Collects bright-colored rocks.
His grubby hands are gentle
On the coats of dogs and birds,
And he has a quiet wisdom in naivete of words.
I listen to his little prayers
At night with quiet joy -
And when I hear the pure in heart
I hear a little boy.
He hasn't reached the age as yet
To question and to doubt;
He gravely takes his mother's words,
And that's what life's about.
Each day is gold, a shining thing
Without a wrong alloy -
And when I hold the pure in heart
I hold a little boy.
By Gwen Belson Taylor
Blessed are the pure in heart.
So often we are told
Of saints whose names and daily deeds
Inscribed in books of gold
Are certain to be seeing God
In well-rewarding joy -
But when I see the pure in heart
I see a little boy.
He shins up trees and barks his knees,
Has lizards in a box;
He loves to read of dinosaurs,
Collects bright-colored rocks.
His grubby hands are gentle
On the coats of dogs and birds,
And he has a quiet wisdom in naivete of words.
I listen to his little prayers
At night with quiet joy -
And when I hear the pure in heart
I hear a little boy.
He hasn't reached the age as yet
To question and to doubt;
He gravely takes his mother's words,
And that's what life's about.
Each day is gold, a shining thing
Without a wrong alloy -
And when I hold the pure in heart
I hold a little boy.
By Gwen Belson Taylor
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Prayer For The Christian Homemaker
Posted by Marianne on August 21, 2008 at 2:07pm
A Prayer for the Christian Homemaker
Dear Precious Father, Help me today to be friendly. From the time I wake up until I go to bed guide my tongue, my actions, and my thoughts towards all others into only the friendliest of tones. Lord, let me use the full extent of the definition for “friendly” in my life today…
1. Affectionate and trusting. May I bless my husband with loving affection any chance I get. Whether it is as simple as pulling the covers over him as he is sleeping or as complicated as figuring out the right way to respond to what he is telling me… make me the affectionate wife You meant for me to be. Teach me this affection with my precious children. May I hug, love on and openly cherish them more than I nag, scold, or criticize! May this affection overflow from our family to every one who enters our warm home. I long to be trusting, Lord, as Your Word instructs… I ask for Your help in trusting…trusting that my husband is the man You want him to be right now, trusting that Your Word is always true and the answer to everything, trusting that the right actions on my part will produce good fruit in this difficult but rewarding thing called marriage. Trusting… trusting that my children will make it through my many faults and failures to become the adults You already know they’ll be… trusting in You instead of in me.
2. Helpful – tending to be beneficial or favorable to somebody or thing. This word seems so simple, my Lord! So basic and simple and easy… but it’s not so, is it? Not for me always, I know…Let today be different. Let today be one huge opportunity to helpful…to be beneficial in every way I can! I look forward to this challenge, Lord! I long to joyfully become the helping, helpful, beneficial, favorable wife, mother and woman that You call me to be! If there is anything I can do this day to help my husband in any way… reveal this/these to me so that I can go about getting them done! If there is a need or desire he hasn’t expressed but You know to be there… share it with me and like a surprise party we can work together to do this task that he didn’t even know I knew of! Show me ways, sweet Father, to be the same for my children. If they have a need to be met…guide me each step in meeting it. If they are struggling with anything… fears, chores, attitudes, — anything…help them through me. Help them with my hands and with my heart.
3. On the same side – not antagonistic toward or in conflict with another. This is another one that should be easy… another thing that should be automatic and sure. Once again with me, Lord, it isn’t always the case. Oh, I claim it! I claim that it is us against the world, that we are a team, that we are always on the same side — but too often I don’t live it. Too often I will make decisions on my own before even thinking of asking my husband HIS view until I have already decided on it. Much too often I will see things his way and my way instead of our way. All too often I will allow an argument/disagreement to place us on different side. Forgive me, Father, and help me today to keep us as one! Let me not antagonize if I am frustrated by making little comments or thinking in my head “I told you so”. Help me today to remain on the same side as my kids on every issue we face. Not on the side of someone else’s opinion or thoughts but us all… on the same side and together. Help me to teach them this now — that we are all in this thing together so that they can grow up to keep their families bonded this way one day. Allow no conflict to separate us, Father… none is worth that!
4. Pleasant and welcoming – with a pleasant and welcoming atmosphere. This one is such a passion of mine! Oh, King of my soul, You know how much I love to put this one into practice. I know I fall down and fail far more than I begin to stand and succeed but it is in my heart to try! Okay, Lord… today I pray that I will be enjoyable! That my home will be enjoyable! You can help me, Lord, for I have it not on my own to provide this joy that they can take part in at all times. When they wake up, Father, fill them with joy! When I serve them breakfast, however hurried we might be — help me to make it enjoyable. Make my nature good… let my entire demeanor speak of happiness, peace and goodness so that it will pour out on my loved ones. Oh, Father – that I could serve you by creating and establishing a WELCOME home! Welcome for my dear and precious family as well as every beautiful familiar and not recognized face that graces our doorstep. Train me, Lord! Please train me to receive gladly each and every person I am blessed to love and care for. Make my home – my home that is really Your home – a place my husband delights in. Instruct me in every way so that he can be blessed by every moment he is here. Make my children glad to be home, glad to be with us and glad to help keep our focus on You and in serving others. Let us gladly and generously welcome each other into each new day, with each meal partaken, each time shared together, each close of the day. May each soul rest in the knowledge that they are eagerly and delightfully accepted… accepted for who they are in YOU, accepted in complete and total love. May we answer each need in welcoming grace as opportunities to learn more of what You would have us do. Show us how to freely love and show love never expecting anything in return. Just as You have always done for us. Just as Your Son did on that cross. He gave everything and expected nothing in return. He loved without condition and in spite of them. May we only strive today and each day coming to follow His prime example of friendliness, affection, trust, helpful, pleasant, and welcoming.
Dear Precious Father, Help me today to be friendly. From the time I wake up until I go to bed guide my tongue, my actions, and my thoughts towards all others into only the friendliest of tones. Lord, let me use the full extent of the definition for “friendly” in my life today…
1. Affectionate and trusting. May I bless my husband with loving affection any chance I get. Whether it is as simple as pulling the covers over him as he is sleeping or as complicated as figuring out the right way to respond to what he is telling me… make me the affectionate wife You meant for me to be. Teach me this affection with my precious children. May I hug, love on and openly cherish them more than I nag, scold, or criticize! May this affection overflow from our family to every one who enters our warm home. I long to be trusting, Lord, as Your Word instructs… I ask for Your help in trusting…trusting that my husband is the man You want him to be right now, trusting that Your Word is always true and the answer to everything, trusting that the right actions on my part will produce good fruit in this difficult but rewarding thing called marriage. Trusting… trusting that my children will make it through my many faults and failures to become the adults You already know they’ll be… trusting in You instead of in me.
2. Helpful – tending to be beneficial or favorable to somebody or thing. This word seems so simple, my Lord! So basic and simple and easy… but it’s not so, is it? Not for me always, I know…Let today be different. Let today be one huge opportunity to helpful…to be beneficial in every way I can! I look forward to this challenge, Lord! I long to joyfully become the helping, helpful, beneficial, favorable wife, mother and woman that You call me to be! If there is anything I can do this day to help my husband in any way… reveal this/these to me so that I can go about getting them done! If there is a need or desire he hasn’t expressed but You know to be there… share it with me and like a surprise party we can work together to do this task that he didn’t even know I knew of! Show me ways, sweet Father, to be the same for my children. If they have a need to be met…guide me each step in meeting it. If they are struggling with anything… fears, chores, attitudes, — anything…help them through me. Help them with my hands and with my heart.
3. On the same side – not antagonistic toward or in conflict with another. This is another one that should be easy… another thing that should be automatic and sure. Once again with me, Lord, it isn’t always the case. Oh, I claim it! I claim that it is us against the world, that we are a team, that we are always on the same side — but too often I don’t live it. Too often I will make decisions on my own before even thinking of asking my husband HIS view until I have already decided on it. Much too often I will see things his way and my way instead of our way. All too often I will allow an argument/disagreement to place us on different side. Forgive me, Father, and help me today to keep us as one! Let me not antagonize if I am frustrated by making little comments or thinking in my head “I told you so”. Help me today to remain on the same side as my kids on every issue we face. Not on the side of someone else’s opinion or thoughts but us all… on the same side and together. Help me to teach them this now — that we are all in this thing together so that they can grow up to keep their families bonded this way one day. Allow no conflict to separate us, Father… none is worth that!
4. Pleasant and welcoming – with a pleasant and welcoming atmosphere. This one is such a passion of mine! Oh, King of my soul, You know how much I love to put this one into practice. I know I fall down and fail far more than I begin to stand and succeed but it is in my heart to try! Okay, Lord… today I pray that I will be enjoyable! That my home will be enjoyable! You can help me, Lord, for I have it not on my own to provide this joy that they can take part in at all times. When they wake up, Father, fill them with joy! When I serve them breakfast, however hurried we might be — help me to make it enjoyable. Make my nature good… let my entire demeanor speak of happiness, peace and goodness so that it will pour out on my loved ones. Oh, Father – that I could serve you by creating and establishing a WELCOME home! Welcome for my dear and precious family as well as every beautiful familiar and not recognized face that graces our doorstep. Train me, Lord! Please train me to receive gladly each and every person I am blessed to love and care for. Make my home – my home that is really Your home – a place my husband delights in. Instruct me in every way so that he can be blessed by every moment he is here. Make my children glad to be home, glad to be with us and glad to help keep our focus on You and in serving others. Let us gladly and generously welcome each other into each new day, with each meal partaken, each time shared together, each close of the day. May each soul rest in the knowledge that they are eagerly and delightfully accepted… accepted for who they are in YOU, accepted in complete and total love. May we answer each need in welcoming grace as opportunities to learn more of what You would have us do. Show us how to freely love and show love never expecting anything in return. Just as You have always done for us. Just as Your Son did on that cross. He gave everything and expected nothing in return. He loved without condition and in spite of them. May we only strive today and each day coming to follow His prime example of friendliness, affection, trust, helpful, pleasant, and welcoming.
In the Name of Christ, the Name above all names, King above all Kings, beautiful Lord, Jesus Christ… Amen. Based on Proverbs 14:1
By Leslie Sausage Heart4Home.net
1 comment:
Beautiful post. I wandered into your blog and I prayed for your family. I think more Christian women who love the Lord should post, there is a great need for Military wives and mothers to know Christ. I am the author of some books for military children and find that marriages and families are so in danger in our military. I am the mother of a soldier and see in my grandchildren what you have described here. Thank you for the post.
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